It would seem that a small problem is a shy child. So what, we were all shy in childhood, and nothing, we grew up. All the other children will grow up, but what will their childhood be like? How will the teenage period go? Will this time be cloudlessly happy?
Let's figure out what is the danger of shyness in children. Also in the article you will find 12 tips on how to remove tightness and shyness in a child.
Congenital causes:Type of temperament.
Purchased:The skill of social interaction is undeveloped.
Children's shyness is noticeable from the age of 2, and by the age of 6 it becomes clear what kind of child will be in the future — shy or brisk. Therefore, it is important to take timely measures to overcome shyness at the stage of its origin.
It is equally important to correct shyness, which is caused by innate factors. But here it is impossible to do without the help of specialists (psychologists, correctional teachers).
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He does not get into dangerous situations, stays close to adults, does not make contact with strangers. But in fact, there are much more minuses than pluses.
The book "The Shy Kid" by teacher R. Sirenko and psychologist N. Bogachkina describes the consequences of uncorrected shyness:
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Especially if they are timid, introverted kids. They cannot complain to their mother that they are afraid to ride on the carousel, but only burst into bitter tears at the sight of the attraction. At the same time, they want to do it, and with proper support they would do it, but…
Gradually, adults get used to the indecision of the child and stop offering him to try something new. Anticipating a negative reaction, they do not let strangers near the baby. Moreover, after seeing how the child is shy, cowering with fear and huddling up to his mother, adults are embarrassed by these manifestations and choose a completely wrong tactic — to leave the child alone.
Such children may not even be taken into competitions, because timidity will not allow them to enter into a fight with rivals. In fact, shyness becomes the cause of social isolation.
According to researchers, more than 42% of preschoolers aged 4-5 demonstrate shyness in an unfamiliar or not entirely friendly environment (when a child is left without parents, one-on-one with a children's team and educators). Therefore, it is very important to properly adapt children to kindergarten:
In kindergarten, it was possible to sit quietly in a corner and play with a toy, but during lessons it would not be possible to stay alone with your fears and tightness.
Indecision and self-doubt negate the benefits of the educational process.
For shy children, school is associated with stress. Academic performance is falling: even easy tasks are difficult if they need to be solved at the blackboard in front of the whole class.
In addition to shyness, there is uncertainty in their own knowledge. What's the use of them if a child can't tell the world about his abilities.
If you're lucky, you can find company among the same shy guys. But these are isolated cases. For the most part, shy children continue to be alone.
Shyness affects the ability to communicate with others. The child is afraid to ask for help, to ask a question to a teacher or a neighbor at the desk. This leads to a decrease in the level of claims. Such a student does not need anything, is not interested in anything, he is inert and uninterested in school affairs.
The problem is aggravated by the fact that the child gradually begins to replace his opinion with the opinion of others. And he really begins to think that he does not need anything and is not interested.
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Teenage shyness
This time is marked not only by active physical growth, but also by changes in psychological terms.
Shyness becomes a permanent character trait. The surrounding people, and the teenager himself, have long been used to it. Certain behavioral models have been developed that allow you to be in a psychological comfort zone:
By the way, a survey was conducted in Ukraine among teenagers and young men from 14 to 18 years old. According to the data obtained, 40% of them suffer from increased shyness. Girls are about a quarter more likely than boys.
One of the main transformational processes in adolescents is the need to feel part of a group. It gives a sense of security, liberates, allows you to express your identity. But it is extremely difficult for a shy child to join any community, so the natural process is disrupted, the feeling of loneliness is aggravated at times.
The teenager is painfully experiencing isolation. May become an outcast in the classroom, be bullied. As a result, a whole complex of psychological problems develops, there is increased anxiety, depression.
How to help a shy child
We have examined the effect of shyness on children from different age groups, and the conclusion suggests itself — you need to fight with this quality! But it is important to approach this as delicately as possible.
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It is not difficult to determine whether it is necessary to fight shyness. If a child refuses something not for objective reasons, but because he is shy, then this quality has a destructive effect on him. And something needs to be done about it. Good luck!
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